Can’t remember exactly where I spotted this phrase last year – probably Instagram – but it resonated massively. Have tried to conduct due diligence, yet am unable to pinpoint one original source. Shout if you know.
Most communication professionals are people-focused, and a consequence can be a high degree of emotional vulnerability – being more affected by how people behave, interact and engage.
Everyone has their own biases – conscious or unconscious – however, as careers progress and we become more comfortable and accepting of our own preferences, certain regular thoughts move towards becoming intrinsic values. From speaking to others across a number of sectors, the ‘radiators, not drains’ phrase seem to rings true…
Difference between radiators and drains
Radiators are those ‘can do’ people who radiate positivity and energy, boosting our mood, creativity and collaboration. Conversely, there are others that are continually ‘hard work’, sapping energy, causing negative situations and being a ‘drain’ on progress.
Recognise those who are positive influences – colleagues who are helpful, kind, and go out of their way to assist you. Equally, recognise those who conjure deep breaths and eye rolls, making things harder. Everyone knows radiators and drains, and it is important to keep a balance – we’ll unfortunately never be clear of every drain (clients, suppliers, colleagues).
Be empowered
The choice is in our hands. We can all decide how frustrated or annoyed we get, how much we hold onto the shitty phrases and unhelpful attitude.
Some days will be easier than others in letting the drains’ approach pass us by. Other days, not so much, but that’s OK.
A few other thoughts:
Mindset, not skillset – some incredibly talented people are arseholes. Being technically good at your job unfortunately doesn’t equal being a nice human being.
Be a radiator – help someone out, give five minutes (even when you’re stretched). Sometimes, taking yourself out of the pressing task at hand can result in clarity of thought. Winner-winner, chicken dinner.
Kill them with kindness – pause and take a breath. Don’t let yourself either snap or get frustrated at the latest unhelpful comment or action. It’s not worth it. And you don’t know what’s going on with them. Give them the benefit of the doubt or, if they’re a super drain, smile extra nicely.
Karma – pay it forward. It’s a small world, and you don’t know when the next favour will come back around.
Surround yourself with radiators – like-minded, enthusiastic colleagues (and friends) that radiate energy, generosity and warmth.
Give it a try this week. Recognise the radiators and drains around you, and choose to spend more time and energy on those who give you something back.
Have a good week, and let me know what you think below.